Getting Support

Over the last few days, the amount of support that I have received has been staggering.

After parting ways with my previous employee, I have reached out to a number of individuals who have been more than helpful in giving support. In some ways it’s a bit overwhelming, because from each individual comes a different outlook or perspective of what to do next. That said, I am entirely grateful to have a very strong group of individuals to reach out to in regards to getting support.

Getting support is nothing to be ashamed about.

I used to take a different perspective on this. I was afraid to be vulnerable. I was afraid to express my fears and doubts to others. Had this happened a couple of years ago, I would have been too full of pride to admit that I needed support. I would have been silent and tried to carve out something for my own. I didn’t want to appear weak and vulnerable to others. What would they think of me? Would they think I was a hopeless case? Would they look down on me? What would they tell others? What would they tell themselves?

What was I telling myself? 

Things were different this time. That evening, I dived in. I reached out to the inner circle. I was vulnerable with what happened. There has been a calm aura around me that I have been a bit perplexed with (and I think others as well), and it has raised some concern and second doubts with myself.

Why am I taking this so well? Should I be panicking? Should I be scrambling?

Or should I do what I have been doing the last few days, which is being grateful and reconnecting with myself? I have felt reinvigorated. Conversations have been better. My workouts have been more intense. I’m reconnecting with my passion for music. I spent the other night playing guitar for well over an hour, something I have not done in ages. I’ve started laying the foundations of my podcast and have a number of people who have expressed interest in appearing on it. I find food tastes better, and the air seems clearer. I’ve found myself laughing more and having more fun with the simple things. I’ve spent quality time around my parent’s dog and reconnecting to people I have not spoken to in awhile.

In short, getting support is all about asking.

As soon as I reached out to others, I received a flood of support that I am grateful for. It feels that all those podcasts I have listened to, all the books that I have read, all the mediation I have done, all the conversations that I have had, has lead me to this point of calmness. This time around, I had no problems in asking for help, in getting support.

You don’t need to wait for a major change for support.

Sometimes it’s as simple as asking a question, or expressing your fears and doubt to someone else. There does not need to be a rhyme or reason to it.