Those Days where you feel like not doing anything

Familiar with that Bruno Mars song?

Today I don’t feel like doing anything
I just wanna lay in my bed
Don’t feel like picking up my phone
So leave a message at the tone
‘Cause today I swear I’m not doing anything

It’s going to happen. You may have been having a great week and you’re out there being your best, but you might wake up one day without that feeling.

  • Maybe you didn’t get a good sleep.

  • Maybe you were out drinking the night before and feel like shit.

  • Maybe you had something came up that impacted your mood.

  • Or maybe you simple don’t feel like doing anything at all.

Like I said, days like these are going to happen, and how you deal with these kind of days are just as important as the ones where you don’t have this issue.

Let’s say you’ve really stepped up your exercise game as of late.

You’re seeing the results. Some in your gains as far as weights and reps, some in the mirror. You may have days where you’re in a bit of pain, or sore muscles, but you’re still putting in your time by lifting the iron.

Then, there will be that day where you don’t want to go. Your bed is more comfortable. A new show is on Netflix. Or that feeling that you usually had when going to the gym is simply not there.

These are the days that will truly test you.

Not the ones in which you’re lacing up the shoes with no issues.

It’s the ones where you say you’ll go in an hour, an hour passes, and you say the same thing again an hour later.

You’ll do anything but go to the gym.

So, two options here…

  1. You don’t go. You decide to take a day off. Even though you had it planned. You distract yourself with something else. Maybe TV. Maybe sex. Maybe ice cream. There’s that lingering feeling though that will weight on you. Why didn’t you go?
  2. You do go. You may dread the walk or drive over, but once you get your first set of reps in, everything is back to normal. You make it through, and you feel way better afterwards.

As Stephen Pressfield says, in his amazing book The War of Art, on that day you have conquered resistance, procrastination, the lizard brain, whatever you want to call it.

Last week, nearly every day of the week, I faced this on a number of fronts.

I was not getting the best of sleeps, and I let that throw me off my game mentally. I track my sleeps with an app, and for now, I’m just going to stop doing that. I think it’s been causing me to overthink my sleeping. When I see that my deep sleep percentage is lower than usual, it throws me off my day.

My concentration may not be where I want it to be. I get bad anxiety. It takes awhile to get down and work on the things that I’ve been working on everyday.

Sure, the writing I write that day may not be as good, nor as plentiful as days where I was feeling it, but I still put in the time. Maybe not as much, and maybe not at the same level, but I still showed up. I still put one foot in front of the other, and I kept going. Once I do, once that’s been done, my energy is up. There’s a weight off my shoulders.

Even though I didn’t feel like doing it at all.

Then I look my calendar, or my app for which I keep track of doing these tasks on a daily basis. I don’t want to break these streaks now, do I? Some I have been tracking for over two months? I don’t want to see that go back to the start, back at zero.

My mom told me about a co-worker who has quit smoking for well over a year now.

For each day that she did not smoke, she put a small circle sticker on that day on her calendar. After awhile, that streak grew, and grew, and grew. She completed one calendar and moved onto the next one.

She says that as of now, the idea of ending that streak of stickers on her calendar is terrifying, and that keeps her going and staying away from smoking.

Sure, by now, she can probably stop keeping track.

However, you can say the same about people who have been sober for 2321 days (and know that amount), or have been sober since December 12, 2003. Sure, by now, they probably don’t need to keep that number in mind to keep their habit, but they do so anyways. The idea of breaking that streak is terrifying to them, to start at square zero with a single drink, or ingesting a drug.

Of course, they had days where they wanted to break that streak, but they didn’t, and they’re stronger for it.

So, when there are days when I feel like breaking my now 70-ish days of writing, the thought of going all the way back to 0 in that app is not ideal. I don’t want to do it.

So even though I may not want to do so on that day, I still do.

And those are the days, like I mentioned, the ones where you don’t feel like doing your daily practice, those are the days that will truly determine who you are as a person.

Even though you may not be at your best, you still show up, and you still put in the work, and that’s what matters.

So yes, you may not feeling like doing it at all, but you don’t want to break that chain now, do you?